Over the past few weeks I have really been feeling sorry for myself. I’m just being honest. I obtained an injury and apparently I thought the best method of coping was to feel sorry for myself. Apparently though… there tends to be a problem with feeling sorry for yourself. Besides the obvious…
Before I go into the story, let’s get real and be super clear. If you believe you have an injury, go to the doctor. Okay? Don’t try to be a hero or bla ze blah. Go to the doctor. Also, this post does not give you permission to go hurt yourself for some sort of coo-coo enlightenment injury. Let’s use our heads here. Okay. PSA over. 🙂
Let’s start at the top
Over the past month, I developed a really nasty cough. A REALLY nasty cough. This cough was so bad that I literally dislocated one of my ribs. I noticed it right after we got back from our vacation and I thought I was really dehydrated. Well the pain got worse.. long story short, I had to have a med professional put it back in and have had to take some time off of running and working out because of it. It popped back out again on Christmas day and this morning I went and got it back in.
Well, during this time of trauma (someone please hear my sarcasm as I am well aware it could totally be worse) I got to thinking about things which is where this blog post has come from. I realized that having this injury isn’t as bad as it seems plus I know some of you that I personally coach and train deal with your own issues you have had to work with your doctors on, so I thought this post would be beneficial for everyone. I’m super competitive so for me to say that my injury isn’t as bad as it seems is huge growth on my part. Everybody be proud. So here we go, 5 benefits I learned of how an injury could actually be a blessing.
Benefit One: Things Could be Much Worse
First of all, being active and working out out and pushing yourself comes with it possible injuries and possible setbacks. It’s how you deal with those injuries and set backs that will determine your success in your journey of a healthy lifestyle. Case and point is exactly what I was talking about in the first paragraph. I was making some really great strides in regards to my running time as well as my lifting game and then I go and get a cough that knocks me on my butt and results in an injury.
Again, I’m super competitive and my competitive nature isn’t really even against other people, it’s against me. (although I can get competitive with others, but mainly me) Which means that when I’m not making progress I get upset, injury or not.
Benefit Two: Taking Care of Yourself is Priority
Rest. Relax. Renew. Recover. Sometimes we need one or all of those R’s so badly that our body is just all of the sudden like “well, if you don’t slow down to take care of yourself, I will make you slow down to take care of yourself.”
This is exactly what happened to me. Working out and running are some of my absolute favorite things to do but too much of a good thing can also be a bad thing, which is where I ended up not that long ago and I’m pretty sure led to this injury. Which is all the more reason to take care of yourself!
Also remember your family and that they need you in tip top shape! My family is part of my “why” I do what I do. I have a very active 18 month old and I refuse to be on the sidelines and not be able get rough and tumble with him and make mud pies with him and simply enjoy him. I also have a husband that needs me in tip top shape because I love doing this crazy adventure called life with him. They are my why and you are my “why”!
Benefit Three: Healthy Bodies Won’t be Taken for Granted Anymore
I have also realized over the past several days that I am really bad about taking my healthy body for granted. Pushing myself to the limits is something I love to do. Working out isn’t to punish myself, it’s to celebrate what my body is capable of. Taking for granted simple things like reaching up to get a glass out of the cabinet or reaching across my body for something became impossible with the injury I had and am still working to get over.
Example: during the duration of this injury, at one point I reached into the refrigerator to get the milk to fix my little man a sippy cup of milk and I dropped the carton because of the pain. What?! That made me mad, I was thinking, I can split jerk almost 100 lb but this milk carton got the better of me? Then I got to thinking gollee, you have taken your healthy body for granted. This was a really good lesson to me to never ever take my healthy body and progress I’ve worked for for granted.
Benefit Four: You Learn Who Your Real Support System is
“Do You Have Your Exit Buddy?” <– that line from Finding Nemo is gold. For those of you that have lived under a rock and have not seen Finding Nemo which is a Disney Pixar classic I will rehash the seen for you. Dory and Marlin are looking for, ironically enough, Nemo and they’re about to ‘exit’ the EAC which is the East Australian Current and it looks like a “swirling vortex of terror”. So, Crush (the turtle) asks them if they have their exit buddy. Which is basically their support system.
He’s literally asking if they have their support system before they take this insane plunge. That’s what we need, we must have our support system or you’ll get discouraged. Guess what? That’s okay to get discouraged, you’re allowed to! We’re human. Side Note – you can grab Finding Nemo on Amazon by clicking that picture over there.
While I’ve been dealing with this rib I have really had to have a reality check a few times as well as the encouragement that I’m not a failure. My hubs is my first line of support who is always great. However, My other support systems are two women, one that I have known basically my entire life and another that I’ve known for several years but just within the past 2 years have gotten really close. They’re two completely different women and I love it, they each know how to keep me on my toes. One is super old school and conservative, the ultimate mom and strong woman who loves Jesus while my other support gal has a 1/4 sleeve tattoo, listens to rock music, loves Jesus and can tear up the kitchen like an Iron Chef.
My point? It doesn’t matter who they are, what they look like, what matters is that they’re there. Your support system loves you and they’re there for you. You learn who your real friends are in time of need.
Don’t surround yourself with naysayers. What I mean is, positive influence is key; for instance, if someone tells you that you have too much peanut butter on your bread, don’t talk to them, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. 🙂
Benefit Five: Reminder to be Thankful
We have so much to be thankful for. That was really something that hit me between the eyes these past few weeks. While I’m busy feeling sorry for myself that I can’t run or workout, there are people that have been in paralyzing accidents or they’ve lost family members or they don’t know where their next meal is coming from. There is too much for us to be thankful for us to busy ourselves with feeling sorry for ourselves.
I’m totally pointing the finger at myself y’all. Remembering to be thankful will totally change your perspective on things.
What to do if you don’t have a good support system
I have had several folks say to me, hey, what if I don’t have a good support system? My first piece of advice is to search for groups on Social Media that will support you along your journey! If you’re looking for one, you can click here to join my Facebook group that I just started.
I’d love to have you!
Don’t be discouraged, You can do this.
Something I promised myself when I started this blog was that I would be open, raw, and real. No beating around the bush and allowing you to see that everybody struggles and that everybody’s success looks different.
This has been a tough promise to keep sometimes, I’ll be honest. But then I think about you and how if you didn’t know the truth about what happens because the glamorous screen of social media, then it’s not help to you.
Life happens, and it’s how you react to the situations in life that determine what the outcome of your life will be.
Attitude is everything.